Wednesday, December 17, 2014

15 pieces of advice that every twenty-something year old woman should read.

Never be afraid to be yourself.
We're not all cardboard cut outs of each other, in fact we're the most creative, delightful, passionate species on the planet. Fall in love with your passions and speak proudly about things you love. Never be afraid to be different or have your own opinions. That's what makes you you and what makes you special.

You don't have to follow all the trends.
Style is a personal reflection of yourself, every 20-something woman ends up falling into the cut out wardrobe at least once, but you really don't have to follow all the rules and the trends. Have fun, add things with meaning and don't worry about the latest fashions, your life is about you, not a mannequin in H&M.

Never stop learning.
This doesn't mean you have to go to school for the rest of your life, you can learn so much just from living. Don't close yourself off from the world and never think you're always right. Life is a beautiful tapestry of mistakes and lessons, take those lessons on board.

Never lie.
There really is no point in lying, did you really drink 17 Cosmopolitains and then meet your Prince Charming on the river Thames under the falling amidst the aftermath of your Christmas party? Life is perfectly ordinary most days, don't feel the need to paint it into something it's not, embrace the ordinary.

Don't be afraid if you don't know what you want to do.
I know people who are 16 that don't know what they want to do, I know people who are 50 that don't know what to do. Make your life full of experiences, no-one will remember you for that monotonous career you followed, they will remember you for your travels and tales.

Sleep on all your problems.
Sleep on everything, sleep on worries, stresses and heartbreaks. Sleep makes everything better. It's even better if you can find out your childhood teddy and give him a good squeeze, there's no shame in that.

Be carful of the people you surround yourself with.
It is not just you that makes you you. It's the people around you. Surround yourself with kind hearted people, people that mean well, that make you laugh and make you cry for the right reasons. There's no time to be wasted on fair weather friends or people that make you feel down right lousy.

Never be afraid to ask for help.
At no point in your life should you be afraid to ask for help. Help comes from everywhere, friends, family, co-workers, just remember to be there in their time of need too.

There is no problem that cannot be solved.
Seriously, my dad once told me if I pushed the big red button that destroyed the world we'd still be able to fix it. The older I get I realise the truth in this, no necessarily the big red button, but every problem that feels like you've destroyed the world can be sorted out. There is nothing too broken that it can't be fixed.

Your life is your own - follow your own path.
You never need to compare yourself to others, you need only reflect on yourself. Everyone is walking through life blindfolded, feeling out the paths and ideas and dreams they grew up with. Take a step of faith and follow your own principals, it's your story to write.

Listen to those who are the quietest.
They have their heads in thoughts, they watch the world from another perspective. People who think about their thoughts put time into their advice, they wait for the right moments and, in my lifetime, have given me some of the most profound advice.

Don't talk behind people's backs.
This is simple, talk about someone in the same way you would expect people to talk about you. There's never any need for nastiness, or malicious gossip. People make mistakes, mess up and sometimes they reflect themselves in a bad way. There's a good chance you've done this too at some point.

Be happy.
This is one of my most important points. Don't shroud your life in worry, don't think about the negative and dark moments. Take small things that happen that make you happy and reflect on them, life is full of so many beautiful moments that get lost and should be savoured.

Don't worry about your body.
It's yours, no-one elses. You have a strange scar? So what? It's yours, your moment, your life story. You've gained a few pounds? So? Enjoy every moment of your body, don't be afraid of it now, you'll really regret it when you're older. Tell yourself that you are beautiful.

Don't over plan.
Remember that we are all walking through life backwards, you can see everything you've done before but none of the steps that lie ahead. Leave some of the future a mystery and let it play before you and hold the excitement in your heart like the moment you turn a page in the best chapter of a book.


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